Both spouses work. Dad works out of the house, and mom works in the house. This Dad loves to come home and see the wife and kids, while at the same time wanting to just unwind for a few minutes. Moms are so glad for Dad to come home so the kids can follow Dad around for a little while after having done it all day. What's tougher is when Dad is not home by dinner time, and mom is left cooking, cleaning up, bathing the kids, and putting them to bed on her own. Universal talking point... as I realize this doesn't just affect Los Mouritsen. But I believe we have solved the puzzle. I present to you: The Contract.
Candace and I have entered into an agreement that starts tomorrow. A point system. But before I go any further, let it be known that I do not like to work late. Here's how it works: Every day that I'm home for dinner at 6pm, I get a point. Every day that I'm not home for dinner at 6pm (with a 5 min grace period), Candace gets a point. We race to 10 points. Winner gets to choose the date night activity, and then both points reset. So not only are we still having our date nights, there are incentives on both sides. If Candace wins, she can take us to all the sappy movies she wants, and while I know she'd rather have me home, the prospect of getting something in return lessens the blow. I, in turn, am motivated to get home by 6 to avoid said sappy movies and bring some sporting events into the mix. I am exempted when I am travelling (thank goodness). If we would have started this last week, Candace would be up 5-0.
Something else started last week was the countdown to receive our household goods, which we have confirmed are in Buenos Aires, just not in the same part of Buenos Aires that our house is in. It has now been 7 weeks in country and it seems like a lot longer until we realize we still don't have our own towels, dishes, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc, and so forth. Another countdown was how long our internet provider will be able to provide the service to us. If you want an interesting read on current Argentine Politics, do some searches on FIBERTEL (our internet provider) whose affiliation with a large media group ran by an opposition party has drawn the ire of the current president, and with an election year coming (2011), the gauntlet has been thrown. The Government gave Fibertel 9o days to cut service leaving the approximately 1.3 million Buenos Aires Fibertel subscribers that amount of time to find another provider.
The highlight of the week would be about the only time we did spend together, which was a Wednesday night dinner and Tango show. Dinner served about 9:30... show started about 10:30 and ended just after midnight. We're still trying to get used to the late schedule as it messes us up quite a bit the next day (and I was already on fumes). The show was fantastic. A real experience. Highly recommended for all of you who may or may not be thinking of a trip down to South America.
Finally, on my "Notes for the Blog" page, I wrote down some funny things the kids said or did so I would remember... So the below are mostly for me, but hopefully remind all of you how much we all love our kids. I know I sure love mine.
1) After being gone so much early in the week, I took an extra minute one day telling Lily how much I loved her... and I was trying hard to make it a special daddy-daughter moment. She responding by squirming out of my grasp and saying, "I know you love me, so you don't have to tell me." I'm glad she knows, but I'm still going to tell her.
2) We went on a walk the other day with our newer double stroller and the kids just love picking up all the different kinds of leaves they find (or beefs as Sam calls 'em). But with two girls, neighbors' flowers sometimes make it into the discussion. As Lily and Claire were asking about some flowers, a policeman was driving by and Candace told the girls it was the flower-picking police coming to make sure they didn't take anyone's flowers they weren't supposed to. They didn't pick any more flowers.
3) While on that same walk, the two year old Sam loves to walk all over. When he spots something dark on the sidewalk, using his honed tracking skills, he says, "doddie poop," and walks carefully around it. There is plenty of doddie poop around here.
4) My birthday is coming up in the next few days and the girls are doing their best to keep the fact they have a present for me secret. They're always asking if I believe that they do or do not have a gift, and they tease about the day's activities to throw me off the scent. Well, today, Claire said they were going to hit me for my birthday. If that's true, I think Candace will get the point for that day... Even if it means seeing Eclipse again. (Full disclosure: I have enjoyed the movies and have read all four books, but I am (and will always be) on Team Dave.)
5) When discussing the priesthood tonight, Lily said that Sam was lucky that he would get it when he grew up. Candace said that girls were lucky because they got to be mommies. Lily smiled and said, "That means we get to be in charge." What a sweetheart.
The time passes and we are becoming more and more involved in Argentina.